Would you go to the funeral?

Posted on Jan 08, 2009 under xn--zqqs84h3is.com | edit
  • Please help me settle this in my heart.If you have not spoken to your mother in 18 years, and she died. Would you attend the funeral?????


  • yes, she is your mother. No questions about it.


  • of course shes still the one that gave birth to you right? get over your differences and ask for forgiveness in your heart...otherwise as the bible says if you cant forgive, neither will He...


  • Depends on the reason why I havent spoken to her for 18 years. If it was something that couldve been solved then I would go and try to say goodbye to the person that gave me life.

    But if she was abusive (physically or mentally) I wouldnt go. Funerals are ceremonies where the love ones say goodbye and if you dont love her and had reason NOT to love her then you shouldnt go, is hypocritical and unnecessary. On the other hand maybe it will give you some closure.


  • No.

    Ill be in this situation in the not too distant future... not 18 years.. but I havent spoken with mine for over four years... and the answer is no. I will not be going to her funeral... for personal reasons. I can live with that.


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  • yes i would.
    she still is your family even if you havn't talked in forever.


  • Yes, because your mother is still your mother no matter what.
    It would also depend on the reason. Why havent you two spoken?


  • Yes... Make your piece in private to her.. pray for her soul and forgive her. Not for her sake but yours.


  • Yes. There is some level of respect there even if there is no love. Also, I am sure there are aunts, uncles, or possibly even brothers and sisters who are grieving that you spoke to. Many people attend funerals more for the survivors than the deceased.


  • Yes, she was your mother, no matter what happened between the two of you, you should attend the funeral.


  • Yes


  • Yes


  • It depends on why you haven't spoken.

    Was it a stupid disagreement and you were both too stubborn- if so you need to go.

    Was it because of a horrible betrayal or serious abuse- then no way unless you want to make sure she is really dead.


  • Yes.
    Even though you havn't seen your mother in 18 years, doesn't mean your love should fade away.
    I'm sure she'd be very happy is you went.

    Think about it, if you died, would your mother go?


  • Yes. We are wired for closure visually.


  • It is a final decision, you will not have a second chance.


  • depends if my other family needed me during this time.


  • Yes, if you were so upset with her you surely want to comfort your other relatives.


  • Probably, yes. It would really depend on how serious the matter was that caused us not to speak to each other for 18 years, but I think you would gain that proper closure by going. So my vote is yes.


  • i'd have to say it depends on WHY i hadn't spoken to her in 18 years. if she had been sexually or physically abusive, maybe not. then again, it could bring closure for you even if the things that pulled you apart were horrible.


  • I think it depends on your reason for attending. Out of spite.. I say don't go. Out of respect in the fact that she gave you life... then go. Whatever happened to cause the two of you to not speak can't be undone... but you need to take the opportunity to show your respect and hurt. If you don't go it may be something you regret.


  • YES


  • Yes. I would attend in hopes that I would find an end to whatever was wrong with us. Though it could never be mended at least I could say good buy and find forgiveness for myself.


  • Honest answer yes, you might regret if you don't in the future.


  • Yes. I don't know what your mother did to you to keep you away from her for 18 years, but in all honesty, you should attend her funeral. I also think you should sit with the family. This is done out of respect for one of God's creatures. You may even meet some people that might change what you have always felt about her. You may even have someone tell you that your mother loved you.

    Look at it this way. She did not abort you, and she could have. What ever happened after your birth is not really important now. Now the only thing important to you,is your personal self and integrity. Show that you are bigger than the conflict by attending your mothers funeral.


  • Hi Rosco,

    Yes- but recognize that the day is about honoring the memory of your mother. i am not sure what the circumstances surrounding the long time of not-talking and whether any of that involves your family. If it does, i think you may want to let them know before hand- that you want to go to honor your mother- and if there is anything that needs to be worked out- it can be worked out before or at a much later time after the funeral- but just that - the day can be about your mother- and just honoring the life that she lived.

    Hope it all works out well- and it's a lovely ceremony and that you can ressolve whatever issues still need to be ressolved. Feel free to email me if i can help in any way- and i'll keep you in my prayers.

    Kindly,

    Nickster


  • Yes.

    You only get one chance on this one.


  • I don't know the circumstances so I can't say what I would do, but definitely you should. You should show that respect and pray for her and if there are problems on your side try and forgive.
    God bless


  • Yes I would


  • I would go. This is your final chance to say goodbye. The last chance to show that you care.

    My relative, didn't speak to her sister for years and years. Her sister died, never went to her funeral. Can you say that is not the least bit sad? Of course my relative was crazy and never let go of a grudge...

    Don't make the same mistake my relative did. Plus, your other relatives are there and they're going to need your support. If not for your mom, go for your family.


  • Duh she is your mother. Put down your pride and humble yourself. Go see her because she is the only mother you've ever had. And also, you won't see her again and will always think about why you never did go to her funeral.


  • That's sad. Life is short. I would regret not having great moments with her. :( You'll feel even bad if you don't attend the funeral.

    Yes, I would go.

    I hope she is saved by His precious blood. :)







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