Parent's....has this site always been like this, or has it gotten worse over time?
Posted on Jan 08, 2009 under xn--zqqs84h3is.com | editBecause if this is how it's always been. I'd rather find a decent site. One that isn't so clicky, and split personality type....
Does anyone know of any decent sites for mommas? I tried Cafe Mom before this, but didn't like it....so any others that anyone knows of?
And I can understand why youâ ™ve gotten hate mailâ ¦.I've seen some of your responses before. I've been offended by some of your responses or even some posts. But you won't get hate mail back from me because again, I choose to ignore certain people, certain comments, certain responses.
It's all in what you make of it.
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Exactly the post I was thinking of....
It seems to be getting like that in all sections as well, it's not just this one....but I think that it happening in this section is beyond sad.
Edit: I realize who you are now......I remember reading your 'mathematical' answer to a question about SAHM's and working moms. You don't make this place any better with your 'holier than thou' attitude. Sorry, I didn't recognize you with an actual shirt on.
I can tell ya this. I haven't really paid much attention to you personally because you highly offended me in some answers you have given in regards to working mothers. It seems to me that you are just out to bash the people who don't rise up to your "I'm the best mom because I stay at home" status.
Now, that being said, I have never once sent you hate mail. I have, however, read some hate mail that you have sent to other users.
But that's really neither here or there. The fact is, no matter what site you go to, if it's a Q&A site, most likely you are going to have trolls. Weed thru the users, get to know them, and you can find really great people who honestly want to help.
I must say, I have only encountered nice mom's on this site - anyone like you I completely ignore.
Anyway,I completely agree with everything Hearts808 said. I have often thought to my self while reading your answers. "Now there is a young mom who really has her head on straight. Too bad no one is listening to her because of how judgmental she sounds."
I don't mean to be rude (I've never been rude to you before),but sometimes the way you word things is like telling people they are stupid. I must admit, I do think many people on here fit the "stupid" classification. In fact at least three times every time I come on here I think to myself,"How stupid can people really be??" But you actually TELL them they are stupid!!! (in different words) lol
Anyway, I think every 'mom' sight is like this one to a degree, but this one might be worse than most. I will tell you though that I never get hate mail or harassment and if ANYONE is going to get that kind of stuff you would think I would since I boldly proclaim to be a Christian right in my profile. I think it's because I don't imply that others are stupid for not believing the way I do.
Try it, maybe you'll be surprised.:-)
You have also offended me in many of your answers and questions, I havent wasted my time to write you an e-mail, but I can definitely see where some would be coming from.
Personally, I enjoy this site..but it's people that are as judgmental and inconsiderate as you that turn me off to it.
You make many comments that put other mothers down just because they do not do things the way you believe they should be done.
That to me, is some nerve...
And my e-mail has always been open...Ive never received hate mail...It came because you might not have even been respectful, nevermind nice.
When you're RudeasHell, people have a tendency to get nasty.
Treat others the way you'd like to be treated, try not to be totally judgmental and immature and perhaps you'll have a better experience.
ETA: This is the question I am referring to...looks like your answer was reported beause you offended so many people.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...
-- trolls: not even worth getting annoyed about. really, why some people would even put in the effort to bother doing that kind of thing is just pathetic. Though I do make an exception for trolls devoted to bashing people who have had miscarriages. That's not pathetic; that's sociopathic.
-- hate mail: my solution is I just don't do mail. If you're coming on here for friends, you'll have the hate mail/clique problem. But if your friends are in the real world and you're just coming on here for debate, you can just skip all that drama (sure, I still get the occasional vicious attack as part of an answer to a question ("desmoron" being my personal favorite, but by no means the nastiest, lol), but honestly, who cares? If someone can show me where I'm wrong about something, I care about that. If someone who's probably 12 wants to call names or thumbs down or whatever, well, fire away.
-- multiple accounts: again, who cares? read and respond to the questions that interest you, and just skip the garbage (and I agree there's a lot of it)
-- cliquey questions: just skip them if you're not interested. There are some users I find so aggravating that I just skip their questions as a matter of policy. No big deal.
-- everyone else's comments already: I've noticed you have some good things to say from time to time (and some positions I disagree with), and that you also could work on your delivery if you're looking to persuade people rather than just make them mad. People are easier to persuade if you're polite about it. But if you're looking to get a rise out of people, that's likely to happen on whatever site you go to. Not to say that nobody will be obnoxious even if you have the nicest delivery (hey, I thought I had nice delivery but apparently the people attacking me don't think so), but it might at least be a little better.
Sorry you've had some bad experiences on here!
Most of the people are nice and friendly.
I'm all for being honest but I've seen tons of your answers and have never agreed with a single one of them.
I personally have never received hate mail, mean comments, or nasty remarks. Hmm... makes you wonder!
I've been on here for the past year and a half and I understand what you're saying. I've had my account suspended and do question why I come back here.
I do find the Pregnancy and Parenting section out of all the categories on here is the worst for the drama, and immaturity. People can't handle diversity, or visions that aren't mirroring their own as well. The Political correctness & cliques is enough to make me puke-where the person won't thumb you up or give you best answer bc you're not in their ''group''. I find the cliques are a little too high schoolish for me but like real life I just keep away from that side of the building bc I hate the drama.
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