Is AD-HD in children currently a new career for certain parents?
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He eats a healthy diet which doesn't have any artificial colours/additives in. He eats wholegrains and fruit and vegetables.
I take a lot of trouble in my parenting and he's well supervised and I teach him how to behave. We don't receive any benefits for him and we have no childcare or babysitting facilities. Me and my husband do all the work ourselves. My son isn't medicated either.
He recently had to leave his Cub Group due to the behaviour of the other non adhd kids and the leaders' inability to supervise them properly. My son was picked to be his group leader, but just got fed up with the other kids, so I'm sending him to try another group. I don't want him mixing with kids who aren't controlled properly in case he picks up on their behaviour. I don't want him thinking that it's normal.
Kids with adhd don't have to end up out of control, but they do need more intensive parenting than 'normal' kids. Not all adhd kids receive the help that they need and many families just struggle along alone or with the help of only a voluntary support group.
My son has great difficulty concentrating on tasks and does have his problems, but I think that with decent parenting strategies, kids with adhd can do well.
Parenting my son does result in a lot of stress within the family, but we just continue to try to do our best for him.
he is a nasty bad tempered horrible 13 year old who does whatever he want to do. when he kicks off in school his mother says its not his fault
the only veg this boy gets is mushy peas from a can
this disability didnt exist when i was a childf
the fridge is , as you said, filled with crap
I just feel very very uncomfortable with the notion of it being some underclass disease that does not truly exist.
My daughters first ever 'best' friend had the book thrown at her in terms of all these kind of disorders. Her parents had raised two fantastic kids prior to this little girl, but then she came into the world at 26 weeks gestation. The times that child's mother would weep with frustration at other parents attitudes were numerous.
With regard to massive financial reward...I worked for The department of work and pensions for more years than I care to remember. It was my job to actually decide if someone should be paid Disability Living Allowance. For every 30 claims for adhd or add only one was allowed. Fact.
I am often amazed at how many people 'know' what neighbours are getting in terms of benefits without a government computer unless there are whole swathes of people willing to talk about their incomes that I am unaware of. Indeed some illnesses you just can't see. We should never assume.We do not the ins and outs of other peoples lives.
There are lots of ways to fail a child. I know plenty who are fed in a very commendable way, take regular exercise . limited TV ..whatever they wear the badge of supposed 'good parenting' for all to see. Yet they see their parents for about 20 minutes a day. Play it right and pout them in weekend stuff as well and you can get away without speaking to and interacting with your child at all.It ALL comes back to bite you on the @rse in the end.
EDIT-Galactic Gobolina firstly don't take this personally cos I think you have asked a very valid Q , but DLA is not paid at the highest component for care to any child unless they are profoundly disabled or terminaly ill. The usual award would be lowest rate care and mobility which is currently combined about £34 pw. No award is made to any child without medical evidence from a hospital consultant. The add ons to income support or wftc is only when a child is receiving the middle rate for personal care. In the 18 years I did the job I awarded it no more than ten times and that was coverig the entire North west region from Cumbria down to Chester.
EDIT2-Sorry GG we crossed edits there! Oh God I don't doubt for one minute there are horrors taking the p. I know there are for sure. Just not as many as everyone seems to think. As awful as this is going to sound lots of people just know they have been awarded DLA they never seem to be aware of the actual brakdown of what they are getting.Lots of people over dramatise the disabilty/rates they are on in order to get attention/sympathy.
Diagnosis is largely given on the basis of parental or carer reports about behaviour rather than by a full evaluation so many kids end up on medication for their parents benefit rather than their own.
With regards to financial rewards, it is extremely difficult to get Disability Living Allowance even for well recognised and profound disabilities! I doubt they are going to get rich from this diagnosis.
I don't believe it takes a genius to see the labelling of ADHD as a recent phenomenon - but the condition as one that has been around for a very long time. There was no such thing as ADHD when I was a child, but there were certainly kids who exhibited the symptoms. They were the 'dumb' kids in class, or the 'trouble makers'.
As for the cause - I'm certain that the crap fed to kids these days, as opposed to good home cooking - plays a huge role. You cannot exist on MSG and fried food and expect your brain to function at optimal levels! But hey - who has time to cook anymore, right? Its home from work - quick meal - off to some organized sport or other function. Food can be bought pre-made, and it makes everyone's life easier....right?
I visit houses constantly in the course of my duties, and I must admit that the disorder is prevalent in households where the parents are lying about watching Jeremy Kyle.
The only attention the children appear to get is the lovingly yelled word ''Shaddap an eecha sweets!''.
Later in the day it is ''Shaddap and eecha chips!''
And later it is normally ''Shaddap an leave meyalone!''.
I've found that the number of ''Shaddaps'' are increased by the number of ring pulls thrown across the room (after a few tins are consumed the word f***ing occurs).
Perhaps the above hold some clues?.
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I once got told,by a poster on here that i 'caused my sons adhd by only cooking in the microwave,,lol as if :)
New studies find,the microwave don't cause adhd pmsl
We have a family in the house opposite and they have 1 child, a girl.
Neither of them work, they were given a 3 bed house council house, they receive housing benefit, income support, incapacity benefits ect raking in approx £1500 per month, all their council tax and rent is paid and they have over a grand a month to squander, they have 2 cars and a motorbike as well!!
Their daughter apparently has ADHD but if you look at both the parents and the daughter it's obvious why they have a hyper child, FOOD! they are hugely obese and let the kid run riot.
i watched a documentary about misdiagnosis of ADHD in children, and definitely believe that alot of parents are fuelling the behaviour.
For a start studies have shown that the use of omega 3 (fish oils) in children helped control behaviour and upped their intelligence level,
it's no wonder children are unhealthy now adays, when alot of parents can't be bothered to cook a decent meal.
THIS is why they have so called attentionn deficit disorder MAN-MADE disease if you ask me with the added fact of having parents who shout and swear and smack their kids every 2 seconds.
How exactly would the extra money help the child?
They need medical and educational help.
I have heard my neighbour telling her children to act up as bad as they can when they go to the doctor.
The youngest girl proudly announced to me yesterday that she had just been 'thingied with Ahdd.' (she couldn't say diagnosed) and that her 'mam is well chuffed'
There is nothing wrong with her children that a bit of half-decent parenting wouldn't solve.
some people are taking advantage of the financial situation but the real winners here are the drug companies and the medical proffesion who are raking in more money than these parents are
They are quick to not put in the work it takes to be a parent, and instead, medicate, feed kids what ever they want so they don't have to listen to whining, and find a way to get some extra cash by saying it's a "disability". I think the parents are the ones who are disabled. It's easier for society to write off certain behaviors by calling them "disorders", so they don't have to deal with reality, or expect people to take responsibility for their actions.
I think that there are some kids who do have problems with their brain's getting too much stimulation, but I don't think it is as common as you see out there today. I have worked with a variety of "ADHD/ADD" cases, and the majority of them need a better diet, more exercise instead of watching tv, and tutoring in certain subjects.....occasionally a good smack across the head. Just kidding.
Watching too much tv alone is an issue in itself, when you realize that the camera shots are 4 seconds each. It's programing people to need a sudden change every 4 seconds, instead of focusing longer such as in the Mr. Rogers days, when the camera focused on a shot for a few minutes or more.
Same thing with iPods and DVD's; you can skip around to content in seconds, so you get used to that "instant gratification", instead of taking the long way to get to the song or scene you want. When you start to get used to instant change, you start to need it and become less focused and more impatient.
Lack of sleep......how are you supposed to focus when you're tired?
Poor diet...how do you focus when you are hopped up on crappy foods or your brain isn't getting the proper nutrients? Sugar and caffeine provide minutes of concentration, and then a sudden drop leaves you ready for a nap.
Kids have lots of energy and need a physical activity to release it, or they can't focus during down time.
If a kid doesn't understant a subject or has trouble reading, or has a hands on learning style vs. a sit and listen learning style...how are they supposed to pay attention?
All of these need to be properly evaluated (NOT by a school counselor or specialists within the school) by a qualified specialist who is trained specifically for that, in order to justify labeling a child.
It's a sad fact that the State has made it so easy and rewarding for people to bring children into this world for financial reasons.
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